I’ve got a bone to pick with all of you, ladies.
Well, not just you, blog readers.
ALL Ladies, in fact.
Please, raise your hand if you’ve seen a picture like this one
How about this one?
Or this one?
which is like this one..
this was is sick to me ….but we’ve seen PLENTY of them..
Have I caught your attention? Have you seen any of these? Because i’ve seen these, or memes LIKE these, ALL over the internet. And ladies-it’s not men posting these. It’s us. We are the main culprits behind this body shaming phenomenon that has swept the nation for…well, awhile now.
Now, there are a million things we need to avoid. We need to do squats to avoid “pancake ass”. We need to maintain a certain muscularity in order to not “look like sticks” but to avoid so much hypertrophy that we “look like a man” or “unfeminine”. If we just do cardio then we look “too soft”. If we Crossfit we start look “too bulky”. There is a view that “fat people don’t belong at the gym” (i’ve heard this fear compounded in people who are bigger and join a gym/box/anything), or are “lazy”.
Do you catch my drift?
I do not have the muscular, strong legs of a Crossfitter. My legs are thin, and my ass isn’t as round and “Squatter” like as i’d like. It would be so hurtful if I saw this picture show up on some sort of internet picture with a snarky comment about “Squatting” and “lifting weights” versus being “unhealthy and skinny”. (however, i completely accept all responsibility for the scary hair. It’s basically dreadlocked)
Listen, I get it. Women who lift heavy weights and work out, we’re proud of our bodies. Our bodies can accomplish amazing things, and its due to our (mostly) hardwork. But, just as
we would never shame women for lifting less weights I forgot .We do that too. We make fun of women who don’t want to lift weights, who have a misconception of bulkiness. I’m guilty of this too. I thought those women were ignorant and misinformed.
But I swear, I’m trying to change. Yes, it’s a misconception IN MOST CASES. In some cases, it’s not-you WILL put on muscle and get bigger-I DID.
I am “much” bigger now-that dress no longer zips around my thicker midsection. I’m ok with it but some women aren’t. AND THAT’S OK. They don’t need to look the way I do, nor do I need to continue to be that skinny.
All I’m saying is…we need to stop contributing to the wave of body shaming. We don’t need to mock a woman because she’s skinny-by choice, by genetics, by whatever. a female body builder isn’t something to be disgusted with, but admired for her hardwork. If we have someone we care about that is unhealthy, we should encourage healthy habits for the sake of healthfulness not because they should look a certain way.
End long soap box rant